Ever wonder what is driving some of the crazy decisions you make on a daily basis that don’t serve you well? What drives you?
Did you know your subconscious mind is driving 85% PLUS of your behavior based on preferences that have been programmed into priority through habit?
Read that again. Think about it. Have you ever wanted to develop a new habit or cancel out an old one, but struggled to actually follow through with it, even though it was your desire to do so and you knew it was what you wanted to do?! We all have. So what has stopped us from succeeding?
I know what’s stopped me. I’ve had 34 years of my subconscious mind making a deep rut, like the rut from a wagon wheel on a muddy road, it’s deepened as the years have gone on because the mind breeds familiarity by repeating what is already familiar.
Repetition of the same activity or thought process has created triggers. Like when you drive the same path home from work all the time and some days you wind up in your driveway, realizing you don’t remember actively driving there. Your mind was on autopilot, it knew the way and it just did it without you mentally being checked in. You just arrived at the same destination your mind is used to you heading towards.
A lot of Scripture for that reason, advises us to renew our minds. How? By establishing NEW preferences. To break old cycles of the soul, deal with familial triggers and pop that wagon wheel out of the rut and onto a new path, we need to establish a new preference to become our driving force.
If we have a deep rut in the road, how do we pop the wheel out to travel a new path? Putting a branch under the wheel to get it up out of the rut. The branch of thankfulness. Focusing our mind on thankfulness sets a judgment for the right mindset in each situation. Thankfulness doesn’t come as naturally for some as others though, and even for those it came natural for in the past, time and circumstances may have reversed it. One way to redevelop it again, is to keep a thankfulness journal. A small pocket sized little notepad even. Your phone if you hate to write but like to type notes.
Every day sometime between waking up and lunch, write down 10 things you are thankful for. Later in the day sometime between lunch and bedtime, write another 10 things you are thankful for that day. 20 things a day. Sounds like a lot? Maybe it is, but it doesn’t have to be a huge thing. It could be something as small as “I’m thankful I enjoyed a healthy lunch today.” Or “My favorite song played on the radio on my way out.” Or “A client told me she loved my shirt, I’m thankful I have a nice shirt.”
Little things, big things, whatever thing you can be thankful for, write it down. CONSCIOUSLY developing a deeper RUT of thankfulness, sets up new preferences and patterns for new mindsets towards future activities. This also develops discipline. Pulling out a few minutes twice a day to make this new way of thinking a priority, gives it extra preference. Don’t condemn yourself if you miss a thankful session, the next day, do a double, or write how thankful you are that you took time TODAY to do it because you find it valuable. YOU train your mind. When you fill up a page, if you don’t carry the book with you, take a picture of that page with your phone, or tear it out and stick it on your bathroom mirror. Read through those pages of thanks whenever you’re feeling grumpy.
What you appreciate, you draw into your life, things you don’t appreciate, eventually leave. Imagine how much nicer your life could be if all the things that you’re thankful for are drawn to you like a magnet? It’s the law of appreciation. Develop your mind to naturally appreciate and see the good in every situation.
This year, whenever you read this, is the time to start. Don’t wait until next year to develop something a trait that can change your life for the better!
As you do this you can play a game with your thoughts throughout the day. Every time a thought comes to mind ask yourself:
“Where does this thought come from?”
If the thought highlights lack, it is a GMO seed. Catch it and disregard it/crush it, by replacing it with a thought of abundance, ability and opportunity. Example: “Ugh. My husband left the toilet seat up!”
Highlights lack of a perfect male specimen, or frustration in spouse. GMO seed, enough of these can build resentment and spread like a virus in your marriage. Replace with “I’m so thankful he provides for our family, he must have been in a real rush to get out this morning to do so and forgot, I’ll just help him out.” As you put the seat down.
“I really wish my kid wouldn’t make such a mess all over the floor when they eat!” GMO seed. Replace with “I’m so thankful I have a child to train in cleanliness as he/she grows and help clean up after in the meantime. Some people are praying for this very situation to become theirs.” Thankfulness helps you not take things for granted and not plant a GMO seed that will sprout a fruitless or cancerous plant in your future.
If the thought highlights abundance or thankfulness, it is an organic God seed. We want to plant more of those, they are fruitful and multiply out to others. Give the fruitful thoughts THREE times the focus of the GMO thoughts. For every GMO thought that springs to mind, CATCH IT, and toss back three Organic thoughts to replace it.
Same Example: “Ugh. My husband left the toilet seat up!”-GMO
Organic thought #1 So glad he works hard to provide for our family, he must’ve been in a rush I got this.
Organic thought #2 Well that helped me notice the bowl needs cleaning *Adds Lysol bowl cleaner, lets sit sanitizing the seat part, scrubs with toilet brush, flush, seat down.* There that’s better now it’s clean!
Organic thought #3 I’m so thankful we live in a country where we have indoor plumbing and toilets, some people still have to use an outhouse! Whew! Glad that’s not me!
“I really wish my kid wouldn’t make such a mess all over the floor when they eat!” -GMO
Organic thought #1 I’m so thankful I have a child to clean up after.
Organic thought #2 I’m glad we have food, some people don’t.
Organic thought #3 I’m thankful my kid eats and doesn’t have physical problems that hinder them from easily doing so. This mess is no big deal compared to the struggles some people face with their kids’ health, God give those parents extra strength and peace today!
Catch a falling thought, but don’t put it in your pocket for later, annihilate it! Replace it with three new thoughts, see how many GMO thoughts you can catch and replace with organic ones in a day!
What are some tools you’ve used to create a new preferences and patterns in your mindset? If you have any awesome tips, please share in the comments section to encourage other readers!
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.